Life’s lessons…

I rarely post anything about my daughter unless it’s that we spent ¬†the day together out and yes today we did . ūüôāanyways my daughter has been dating a guy now going on 5 yrs in Oct he is 7 yes older so almost 30 per say but in most cases acts like he is 18 or younger my daughter is way more mature then him at 22 and this relationship is so one sided always been about him ¬†and and he is a gamer so stays up all night playing video games works but only part time could of landed a full time position¬† but has lost his chances by not giving .. showing enough effort to be the right person for it. Sadly he has no motivation¬† so your thinking why is she with him well we all wonder the same thing her family friends . We¬† did not realize all this at the time seemed like a super nice person but now seeing he isn’t well he¬† is not a bad person but he is not a happy person due to his own fault¬† and she is not happy but he plays poor me and she gets mad for a bit but then feels bad and stays with him … we have all been so nice to him helped him but sadly he is not going anywhere they tried living together it lasted barely a year so now he is living with his mom. not saving complains. constantly¬† about everything you cant give him advice he does not take it it’s¬† his way or no way can’t compromise ,and when he is at our house for several day he sets off this vibe a dark cloud over me and she has felt it too yes I believe in vibes.. karma ¬†when he leave it lifts ¬†yes I instantly can feel the relieve ,I cannot take seeing her get miserable but then play nice to him and no matter what we say she stays with him . She says she isn’t as attracted to him like she was and wished it would fade out instead it just keeps going this way they work together so this doesn’t help and now I’m finding that even what I say doesn’t matter as a mother to daughter talk¬† she stays with him . I’m so frusturated with all this and I’m ready to cut the ties myself from befriending him on Facebook … buying him things for holidays I just realize she isn’t going to end this with anyone’s input . why I ask ? She is so much better then this deserves so much more I can’t understand . All I know is I tried being nice to him for her sake but cannot anymore too much stress , so I’m going to stop asking about him if she as an issue with him I will not give feed back I’m washing my hands from this . Anyone have any advice ? I would gladly take it. I’m thinking more negative things I say she stays with him . Is this going to sadly be her life lesson to deal with him and regret this someday . ¬†I hope not . What to do ….anyone ?

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Another day in the life of a parent.

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Hi Everyone , it’s been a long two days and yes I like my picture shows I am tired. The stomach bug hit our house and The one that got it was my Son of all people this kid is never really sick well some minor colds but he hasn’t had a stomach bug like this since he was a very little boy and throwing up for him is not good because it doesn’t stop until many rounds and once in the ER at 4yrs old and once again where he ended up this time .

Wednesday he came home from school said he was tired after sports which isn’t unusual for him and so I made him supper he ate then at 5:30 he went into his room and¬† my husband I figured he is doing homework so I checked he is bundled up under the the covers fast asleep in his bed. We left him he came out a few time that night so at 11 my husband and I are in bed we hear him in the bathroom I’m like oh boy that does not sound good so he comes out, we are like are you sick he says I think so three more time off and on till midnight so now I am getting concerned and nervy because I do not do good with this kind of virus so after seemed he settled. At 3 in the morning he wakes me he is mumbling I haven’t slept at all been running to the’ bathroom all night I’m¬† in a daze from being woken up so fast.I am like what omg ! he is yelling do something do something it wont stop so I call the Dr. and he goes to ER and they put him on an IV two bags later he is out sleeping away ..then about 3hrs later they send him home well hydrated and weak poor guy slept the rest of the day and now mind you I have had about 3hrs as well as my husband who took an hour and half snooze then had to go to work .I should of taken a nap but didn’t couldn’t was so wired up and just started sanitizing everything and laundry ….well such a wrong thing by yesterday (Thurs) afternoon I just wanted to crash but you know that over tired feeling well that was hitting me as well .I have realize I am getting old¬† and a goodnight sleep is what I need . My son is doing better and is home still weak but yes much better I think he would rather be a 100 percent but finding out that food is not is best friend at the moment but drinking is and resting.¬† Hopefully a quiet weekend for him. So a mothers job is never done how no matter old they get yes less taking care of but still needed and the worrying is always going to be there. So now he is off to sleep after watching many movies and I may take a nap as well.

Love!!

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It’s a new day and a new President elected and    new laws that have passed that I am not to happy about.  I know some of us are happy and some of us are not  happy who is our new President but protesting doing it  violently is not the answer.  I am sorry for that but life will go on and hopefully we can find  some hope that things will change for the good. I do not like to talk about politics because to me it’s just a subject not all will ever agree on. I wish we could of voted for more good  more peace more morals and especially more love  the hate in this world is just  unbelievable I never seen it this bad and it’s so scary. we need to stand together and get stronger  and love more  to get through this world  how can we raise strong happy loving kids if all we show them is the negative’s I just do not believe we can …..I know I am going to try to keep showing my kids that there is good in this world still we just need to try harder and I know there are  other ways to deal with things  we do not agree on by using hate. I hope everyone gets some sleep tonight I know I am hoping to ..  a very late and long night.it was.