A summer of change and challenge….

Oh where did the summers  go when the things we worried about was too much sun ,not enough water , over tired kids . how to get them inside for the night and a sad child because their popsicle melted faster then they could eat it. Replaced with worrying where your kids are  ,not home by curfew .. or their not where they said they would be , insecurities if not trusting  a friend , your teenager sad and playing sad depressing songs over and over after a breakup. Trying to find an answer to their why’s and it’s unfair .. then we get even more complicated with teenagers hosting parties and you find out your teenager is there because you get a 1 in  the morning phone call saying you need to pick me up because there not at a sleepover…. and the party just got busted and the police are asking you to come pick your child up and their car as well . And you want to be angry at them but at the same time you just want to get them home safe and the lecturing will have to wait till morning but you cant sleep because there is so much you need to say and if your lucky they will listen . Then if you have a soon to be 22 yr old daughter who  does not know what to do with her boyfriend she is unhappy with and is easy for you to say then end the relationship. But they have 10 reasons why thier unsure of , yes is your head spinning mine is . and then she is trying to save and work more which we know work and making the money to move out is a challenge in it’s self this day in age  and she has a good head on her shoulder and is frustrated because she is trying but it is taking more time then she thought. Yes the challenges just as the teenage parties  are .. yes some did some didn’t but this generation is parting even more and  more young adults are still living at home and how did your teenager get ahold of half the  alcohol   is beyond me .  My Son is a great kid has good friends  they all have jobs and athletics and  good grades but pressures  yes a lot of pressures  peer pressure which is at an all time high as well in this age. but do not get me started that is a subject for another day  but I believe it is part of the problem and they just can’t get it that this is not a good thing of what thier doing and let me just say my husband  and I’ are holding our breaths for school to start 3 more weeks and school will be here and it’s going to be the longest 3 weeks of our lives . So like my title to this post says the challenges …this has been an eye opening summer  wish I  could find a solution to all  if these challenges yes I know learning experience  but these days it’s just not a safe answer .  

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Can you say crazy….

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Myself Crazy…… ughh  how I feel this week  I do not think one day warm and sunny then 3 days cold and raining does not help . It was one of those weeks when I feel  like I’m running in two different directions.  Thankfully it’s Friday.  So now everything is done and the house is quiet Miss Abigail is doing what she does best on quiet rainy days snuggled up and sleeping it away… until everyone gets home . I think I am going to check out that new series that is based on a book. that is on Netflix it actually a book that my daughter read back when she was in 7th grade and now she is 21  and is reading it  again its called 13 Reasons Why .. there is a big controversy in my part of the globe I do not know how far this controversy stretches  to the rest of the globe but society is saying it glamorizes teenage suicide and gives the teenager the idea that if they have a problem this is an easy way out. my daughter said she believes people are getting the wrong message that what she gets out of it is that the main character was so bullied  mistreated and had know one  who she felt she could tell who could  help her friend wise and  other kids went along with the abusing and that more teenagers  and adults should learn more about bullying and issues teenagers go through and more now in this society from this book/series how to see the signs of bulling or abuse to help someone if you witness this to stop being so hateful to others you never know what someone is going through. Okay I can agree with that so I decided I will watch it and see what I see being that I do have a daughter who suffered from bulling … when she was in High School yes my now 21 yr old and thankfully was strong enough to tell me and now she is doing well and is a very stronger person that I am so proud of.

Now my Son is in High School a Junior and the pressures and the games girls or should say a girl that is playing ,the  mind games with my son who is not into drama like his sister says it like it is doesn’t like to be lied to okay yes who does right…  is heart is so big he respects girls he will be nice to anyone so there are days he is in the slumps yes he gets tired from sports school work but the kids and girls play a big part of those slumps so I like to keep a close eye on him  He does  know his dad and I and sister are here at anytime  time to talk to. Sadly this day in age these kids do not have it easy peer pressure is at a all time high and they will not talk to someone and will take it upon them self to handle it I quote… so this when you have to become a detective not easy but its possible.  so will see when I watch this I will let you know in between reading the book I showed you in my past post ..its good but so far its going by the movie which usually does not happen which I was hoping would be more detailed but I will see and get back to you on that as well.