Lazy , rainy day..

With my husband off using his vacation time as thrown me off my routine . My son being home has thrown my bedtime off .. plus my hubby with late night movies as well .. ugh! I decided to relax with my adult coloring in bed easy to do with a firm pillow , anyways I thought this would relax me , as it did . I colored I was in my happy place. Then my son arrived home with a group of his friends and asked if he could play his music we said it was fine. Well being a small house my bedroom walls where rocking as the base pounded through our walls . I gave in to watching tv with my hubby and put the coloring aside ,the laughing was nice to hear but then came the thumping in which case I believe was some of the guys wrestling ๐Ÿ™„let’s say 1:25 hit and slowly the house quieted and slowly I fell asleep to wake which felt like I only slept for 5 minutes.. to the rain hitting the side of the house. I looked at the clock 9:00 I just wanted to roll over and go back to sleep but feeling that I needed to get up and see who was still in the house ..friend wise I dragged myself to a quick shower and followed the beautiful aroma of coffee to the kitchen. Only seeing my hubby relaxing on the couch with his coffee as the shower ran in the main bathroom . My hubby told me his friends had all left earlier this morning .. how ? To be young again. My son came out of the bathroom cheerful and dressed for the gym don’t ask I know he took a shower๐Ÿ˜‚ I said good morning as he headed to the spare room which has been turned into a computer /lounge for whoever realizing that his Sargent wanted him to enroll in a couple of university in our area for the ROTC program so he could do more with the army now that he knows that’s what he wants after being back from Basic Training he had to write some essays .that being said took most of the morning and after that was done he was off to the gym .. As my hubby and I enjoyed our coffee we chatted in between yawns. The rainy day did not help even Miss Abigail was settled in ready to sleep the day away. It’s now 7 and I think I’m going to head into my room . My son is out at a dodge ball tournament with his friends. I’m hoping he’s not late but I may not hear him come in because I’m that tired to just fall asleep. My daughter works until 8 then up at 6 for tomorrow for work. So she will be ready to settle. Tomorrow night we will actually go out the four of us as a family to my sons favorite restaurant . Since he leaves Wed and it’s the only time my daughter has off in Between New Years so we will spends some time together. But for now I want to get under the covers and get some sleep …hopefully ..wish me luck.

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Me time …

It’s a Thursday night hubby and I are relaxing my daughter with her boyfriend my son visiting friends .hubby’s off until The 2nd week of January so we have been staying up late watching movies , I decided to try out my new color pencils and new adult coloring book my kids bought me along with several other beautiful things I received from them but they know how I love to relax .. so while my hubby is watching his movie I’m coloring having some me time. Loving the coloring book and the colors of the pencils. Okay back to some more coloring.

Soon!

Good morning it’s a quiet Tuesday one .. after waking up at 7:00 the aroma of coffee found its way to me . I dragged myself to the shower but not before starting a load of laundry my husband had loaded in the washing machine ..I blasted the hot water since it’s so cold trying to warm up . Finally finding my way to the kitchen grabbing some coffee was so worth every sip.Miss Abigail is already in her chair sleeping away again . Oh this house is quiet but going to be even quieter by Friday when my hubby flys out to my Son for his Basic Training graduation I’ve mentioned this in past posts ,I’m not going can not fly or do the long distance walking so he will video and get a lot of pictures. The graduation isn’t until next Wed with visiting the base the day before so actually he’s flying out Saturday early morning with his mom who got them a room by the airport on Friday night so she wouldn’t have to to do an hr and a half ride to the airport for a 8:00am flight sadly they will be hanging around in a hotel from Sat to Tues because of finding a flight so close to my sons graduation . Then after graduation they will head to the airport and fly home with him . It will be a long day for them they should arrive home around 1or 2 in the morning.. I will stay up to at least give my son a hug and then let him head to bed . And then catchup with him as much as possible until his friends get ahold of him. They have already started texting me asking when he will be home …… so this will be interesting ๐Ÿ™‚. It’s only 12 days here then he flys back out again but it’s ok I can at least have him home for Christmas !

I have been slowly decluttering the house .. my daughter will help me when my hubby is away which will keep my mind busy . Yes my mind (hahaha) I think too much . And so decluttering and freshening up his bedding will keep me busy . Yes I have been thinking and what timing as I’m writing this post I’m watching the morning local show while enjoying my coffee their talking about first holidays with your adult kids coming home from college , moving out military etc ..stating how when they come home it will be different for them and the parents as well.. The day they first walked out the door on their own they became adults and started their new life and so they will be different and we will be different as well ..So how we treated them before will change a bit yes their still our kids but their adults, seen a different world so transitioning to coming home will be however we make it but to respect there difference as well as they should respect our difference of how we as parents have adapted to them not being here But being adults doesn’t mean they will not need us they will. But in a more supportive way of letting them tell you how they feel if it’s been hard then guide them with ideas to make it more easier but teaching them , telling them is no longer our job. It’s their life. and we want them to want .. to look forward to coming home.Ok I must say listening to this has helped a lot because that is what I’ve been thinking about so much as the time has come closer to my son coming home and him coming home from Basic Training he will be different. And that could be a good thing . Oh I love him but he needed some help with growing up and hopefully taming his wild ways ..not a bad wild but a young wild .. so I will step back see how he is when he walks though the door and then trend carefully seeing the difference in him. My daughter growing into an adult was so different and easy she didn’t move away but went in a separate part of our house and just transitioned so much better I think she was born an adult ) hahaha) being a teenager was hard for her she always acted older then her peers . Was better around adults so being adult she has flourished and I’m proud of her. . So yes we will see . I’ll keep you posted.

Halloween…

Today was like any other day .. except for the exception I woke late after not going to bed until 1:30 or more … had it planned to get some sleep after finishing my letter to my son sending a quick text to my daughter yes… only down in her place but still new she was still up catching up on her tv shows she recorded. So a quick text goodnight our thing..,and turned the volume down on my phone or thought I did .. been keeping it on since my son left just Incase it makes me feel better it’s complicated to explain. Old habit …. anyways I turned over closed my eyes and then my phone binged and lit up .. had to ..needed to look . It was the link notifying me of photos taken at the base. I had to see couldn’t wait .. there on one of the many photos was a photo of my son doing his thing. So yes I was on for a bit until saying ok … sleep. Well morning came quick and yes for some odd feeling it felt like Halloween but so much has changed .. yeah kids are adults now ( hahaha) really how … how time flies. Plus the fact we get no trick or treaters where we live . Haven’t handed out candy in yrs.. I drove through town ,not many decorated but a lot of pumpkins carved with a heart throughout the town in honor of a little girl who got killed in a sad accident that should of never had happened and it was I believe two days before Halloween and this yr marks two yrs this precious little girl has been gone . So it was nice to see all the pumpkins with hearts carved into them for her.

Not many trick or treaters as much anymore the kids in the neighborhood all growing up. I believe a lot more unlit houses discouraging any who want to go to to their house . I just think of the times we live in now , it just doesn’t seem safe to do this anymore. I think that’s why it seems more low key around my world now. Sadly I do miss it , loved dressing up my two and my other half and I walking through town with them , talking to other parents as we went door to door. But times have changed. My daughter out with her boyfriend after getting out of work. My son at Basic. Hubby and I settled in watching our favorite show while enjoying some recess peanut butter cups.. hahaha the best. Now he is sleeping away and I believe I should as well . Happy Halloween everyone ..

It is what it is..

Woke to a cloudy cold morning . Dragged myself out of bed poured a hot steamy cup of coffee. As I sat and enjoyed it . The quietness around me was actually okay. I just took it in and thought it is what it is . ..actually with a smile..as I just sipped my coffee . My daughter came up from her place moments later with Miss Abigail at her heels . I listen to my daughter talk about this and that and smiled somethings never change . She always has an opinion about something ๐Ÿ™‚ after we both went about our business I cleaning the little bit around the house if you want to call it that more like went room to room and just opened up window shades, made the bed . And then was done. 4:00 in the afternoon now and after a very heavy rain the sun is out and shining bright . Warming the temps to the mid 50’s crazy weather. Soon my husband will be home and I know he will want to go for a run So supper can wait to be made for a bit . My daughter will eat with her boyfriend . Another easy night .. not complaining by any means just following along with it. It’s just seems all so simple these days . I know in a couple of months my son will be home and maybe it will be less quiet will see what an adult he may have become. Then the quietness will start again when he leaves for his training . I’m just proud of my kids for being who they are and being kind ,caring people. It’s a funny thing you blink and before you know it they have grownup . So don’t blink๐Ÿ˜‰

Monday…

I woke to a dark quiet house doesn’t help that a rainy one at that. My hubby and daughter were already at work .I just laid there trying to not think about how quiet it was and knowing the longer I laid there I would think….. showering the night before I dragged myself out of bed ran a brush through my hair and went to the coffee pot made a cup for myself and just looked around at the kitchen ….. it was clean nothing to have to pick up, sad how that is a bit upsetting no breakfast chaos cleanup … I alway thought of it as . Crazy how we tend to miss the chaos of housework or the slamming of the back door.through out the day . When that’s been your life for many many yrs it’s not easy to forget.. Today is the beginning of my new routine or whatever you want to call it. My husband took last week off so after my son left for Missouri on Wed , my husband and I took rides watched movies stayed up late watching tv ,sleeping in the next morning so it still felt different the quietness was different even though my husband and I kept one another busy.my daughter who is out just as much as my son would be even stated it was different when she came home and saw all the cars in the yard. As of Sunday reality set in ,…my hubby getting himself back in the work routine he woke early ..we did separate things. I know it’s only been 4 days but thought maybe my son could call home being that it was Sunday and Sunday night will be when he will call ..A long night when the phone didn’t ring and it was 8 at night and we knew we were not going to be hearing his voice .. Today is his first day of Basic Training if all went well physically and the Army schedule. I would think if it didn’t we would have heard something…. so now it was just Miss Abigail and I until I had to run out to an appointment and do some errands. Then I came home to a daughter who arrived home at 2 after her shift and feeling a bit under the weather . I decided it would be a good day for homemade chicken soup ,as I was making the soup my daughter and I chatted and she said how as the day progressed at work she didn’t feel that good and had stated that the house was quiet and was missing her brother. As a 5 yrs difference in age and complete opposites one thing that they have in common is blood and they have each others back so I knew she was missing him. After the soup was made and the house was nice and warm from cooking and smelled quite good. She grabbed a movie she had . She put the movie in got comfortable on the couch and we watched About Time if you ever watched the Travelers Wife it was something like that . Very interesting and sadly a bit sad. It was good though. Worth a watch.

It’s evening ,movies over ,suppers done and cleaned up hubby’s settling in our bedroom watching tv since my daughter has fallen asleep upstairs on the couch …. I know she isn’t feeling well but most important I think she’s needing sleep . She stated she hadn’t been sleeping good and her boyfriend who was off all weekend and works nights was up so she was up with him . A good night for resting … still raining and cold and now dark out. The house is nice and toasty still since I ran the oven and made a fresh batch of cookies. . Later I think I will settle in bed with my hubby and read some more of my book . Hoping to get to the library tomorrow when it’s open and get a new library card . Their open two nights a week and Saturday morning . So when I think about going it’s always on the night their closed or closing. Plus another run to our PO Box for our mail hoping that the Army base sends out the address so we can write letters to my son. . I guess it’s time to settle I think I ll let her sleep on the couch until she wakes herself up and I will get comfortable and get to my book.

Friday….

It’s a cold quiet Friday night… except for the occasional cheer my husband yells out towards the TV when our baseball team hits a home run . It’s the playoffs so he’s anxious for our team to win. Miss Abigail is sleeping away how I do not know .. she is upstairs with my husband and I a lot lately … my daughter has been occupied by a friend of hers that broke up with her boyfriend so now every free moment my daughter has when she isn’t working or with her boyfriend she is out. My son took my husband for a hike this morning till mid afternoon so that made my husband happy , now my son is out with friends off and on until tomorrow night to see them while their back from college for the holiday weekend and my son wanting to see them before he ships out for Basic Training Wed . Sunday We will have a family party for him so all the family can come and see him enjoy some food , then Monday and Tues will be him getting ready for leaving. Now I’m starting to get more anxious with him leaving .. ugh I do not want to start this feeling I was doing good . Now I’m thinking and feeling how quiet it will be .. the days shouldn’t be too bad he’s not usually home during the day but the nights he is or has been a bit more lately and knowing he’s not in his room is making me feel anxious .. I keep saying just think he will be fine when I’m sleeping he will be he will have to be, and after two weeks he can call home on Sunday nights . I’m trying to sink this into my head sadly it’s not working. I’m hoping it’s just my mood tonight and tomorrow will seem better with this . I hope .

Reading would be good but I do not know if I could concentrate on it .. I know I should try it’s only 8:30 too early for bed. I know I need to try . I guess I will see if this helps.wish me luck. ๐Ÿ˜ž