Stress release ….

Settle in for the night in my cozy bed house is only occupied by my hubby and I and Miss Abigail at the moment kids are out. Been a sad week …on Monday afternoon a boy my sons age and one this community knows all to well and his family ,was in a car accident do not know the details it’s all under investigation but the car is beyound totaled he was alone driving it and he is not in good condition …stable but severe head trauma and it’s going to be a long road for him and his family . This has shaken me up a bit because this generation of kids just want to be constantly on the go and that means on the road . Oh if I could keep my son in a bubble. As I write this he is out with his friends tonight as of last night and I am trying to not to worry so I’m coloring my fears away well at least trying I finished one page and have started this one. I’ve posted, this one has even more detail then the last one which is a good thing to occupy this over thinking mind and heavy heart.😥

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Life’s lessons…

I rarely post anything about my daughter unless it’s that we spent  the day together out and yes today we did . 🙂anyways my daughter has been dating a guy now going on 5 yrs in Oct he is 7 yes older so almost 30 per say but in most cases acts like he is 18 or younger my daughter is way more mature then him at 22 and this relationship is so one sided always been about him  and and he is a gamer so stays up all night playing video games works but only part time could of landed a full time position  but has lost his chances by not giving .. showing enough effort to be the right person for it. Sadly he has no motivation  so your thinking why is she with him well we all wonder the same thing her family friends . We  did not realize all this at the time seemed like a super nice person but now seeing he isn’t well he  is not a bad person but he is not a happy person due to his own fault  and she is not happy but he plays poor me and she gets mad for a bit but then feels bad and stays with him … we have all been so nice to him helped him but sadly he is not going anywhere they tried living together it lasted barely a year so now he is living with his mom. not saving complains. constantly  about everything you cant give him advice he does not take it it’s  his way or no way can’t compromise ,and when he is at our house for several day he sets off this vibe a dark cloud over me and she has felt it too yes I believe in vibes.. karma  when he leave it lifts  yes I instantly can feel the relieve ,I cannot take seeing her get miserable but then play nice to him and no matter what we say she stays with him . She says she isn’t as attracted to him like she was and wished it would fade out instead it just keeps going this way they work together so this doesn’t help and now I’m finding that even what I say doesn’t matter as a mother to daughter talk  she stays with him . I’m so frusturated with all this and I’m ready to cut the ties myself from befriending him on Facebook … buying him things for holidays I just realize she isn’t going to end this with anyone’s input . why I ask ? She is so much better then this deserves so much more I can’t understand . All I know is I tried being nice to him for her sake but cannot anymore too much stress , so I’m going to stop asking about him if she as an issue with him I will not give feed back I’m washing my hands from this . Anyone have any advice ? I would gladly take it. I’m thinking more negative things I say she stays with him . Is this going to sadly be her life lesson to deal with him and regret this someday .  I hope not . What to do ….anyone ?

Sleepless nights..

Crazy past weekend lets see this beautiful full moon has ket me up as had me in reved motion along with my teenage son … this photo was taken at 1in the morning on Saturday has my husband and I were driving to pick our son up after a ..umm …. party he went to with his friend got busted …just to note we did not allow him to go because we did not know .he did you the trick you and your friend say your each going to sleep at each others house but they really are out doing this , Thankfully the police who busted it where very nice because the kids where under age and past curfew of driving they had to get a ride home by thier parents and leave the car or one of us drove it . So we walked up as they where escorted to us by the cop and she asked if we where my sons parents and said if we where taking his friend home too we said yes and she said okay they’re not in trouble we just want them all to get home safe and I do not know if they had a drink they wouldn’t say so we said thank you and my husband drove my sons car home and I drove the boys thankfully they hadn’t drank but still got a lecture from me ,they told me they just wanted to go to be with this girl who invited them and they new they shouldn’t have hmmm a bit to late oh , I will be so happy when school starts in less then 3 weeks, he will and I mean WILL be home and he has been on a strict watch sadly but it’s just not safe to do . Yes we have done this but when it’s your child it’s like a slap in the face of reality your mother saying see how it feels  .. yes karma  funny thing is I had a feeling and I was wide  awake so yes it was a crazy past weekend and a week of trying to get into a normal routine and a little more rules . Let’s say a challenging summer this has been and such learning experience for all of us . 

Always wondering…

So it’s 9:30 on a Thurs night and the storms have passed for the time being. Oh wait now it souns like a monsoon out there where did this rain come from… I’m laying  here in the dark on my phone  playing the game bubble pop and for the life of me can’t get past level 32, two days so far …why did I even think to start playing  this game . 🙂 It’s so addictting . So any how I’m laying her playing thinking of how we are  all settled in for once… hmm nope my son asks if he can drive into town and see his two best buddies hmm okay I could I should say no but well soon school will be here and he will be home  at night his friends will head back to college soon so I say yes … and said be back by curfew one of his buddies moms owns a fudge / candy ice cream store so they sit there after it’s close and eat ice cream and talk well what I’ve been told . Small town so if he is not telling the truth I will find our. Parenting is not an easy thing. In all the parenting books they do not warn you that there will be a lot of worry and wondering and that you become a detective as well. Yes the perk of being a parent . So I guess it’s more bubble pop untill my son gets home unless I fall asleep but that is rare when he is out I usually stay up . Well hope everyone has a goodnight you know what I’m doing

Your life…

Good Morning ! Sitting here on my couch  coffee in hand and imensly enjoying it . I’m watching tv and it’s the Today show and they stated what happen to personal choice oh my yes!!! That’s it what happened … I find myself fighting this more and more everyday now that time is becoming my time. We have raised our daughter our youngest is about to be 17 a senior and I’ think my better  half and I have done well or as well as can be . So now I and my hubby can do and go wherever but you know what I honestly don’t want to …. fior myself give me a good book to read a notebook , computer to write , or the stars at night and my comfy deck to enjoy them ,my bed or couch with a warm cozy blanket  and a movie or favorite show on a cold winter night  and I’m happy why when I’ve done my house cleaning and watched my sons track meets and enjoyedmy daughters   chats with a cup of tea or coffee and my hubby and I talk all the time take rides watched tv together be enough? Especially after a long day at work   Why do I  feel guilty why do I feel like we should be doing more why do I feel I have to justify this why do I compare when I honestly know I am happy with this my hubby is as well but why ? A question I ‘m struggling with a lot this year. As society made us feel we have to constantly be doing , going somewhere. Comparing ourselves with others Or is it me ? Any answers anyone?  Would love some help on this.

Homebodies…

It’s a quiet Tuesday night at 8::41pm and my better half and I oh can’t forget  Miss Abigail are settled in bed with the air-conditioner blasting and watching Americas got talent nice place to be at the moment .  Yes we are proud homebodies getting use to it , yes sometimes it’s too quiet but it happens. and I  need to embrace this  new chaphter ,life is forever a change of moments and I know my better half and I have done our job ..but where not done yet we just  have more layed back days .My son is going into his senior yr of Highschool and it will get a bit busier  for a bit with his cross country and track meets and preparation for graduation . So right now homebodies is just fine. 

AHH Friday!

Another rainy cold dreary day but one it’s Friday and My Son had a great Track Meet ….their team won and he came in 1st in several races best part I was there to see it. I usually will not go to the meets if its raining  and cold but It was a home meet (at his school) and I felt like sucking it up and said I will last as long as I can .So I bundled up took some ibuprofen for my hips and legs grabbed a throw blanket and off I went . ..Okay it was more then just cold it was down right damp and wet hahaha it started pouring so I had an umbrella and wrapped the blanket around me leaned into my husband and fence next to to my sons running event since the bleachers where soaked and enjoyed watching them run and do the long and triple jump and talked to other parents and my Mother in-law and made it to the last race which was his longer one the relay so I decided to walk out with my mother in-law who was ready to go and left my husband to finish watching. .Once in my car that heat went on full blast and I thought of the electric blanket that I would be in soon hahaha has I drove home I was happy that I made it through three of his races and seeing my sons happy proud face when he did so well, and hearing him cheer on his team . I was so happy I drove right past my house and then decided I would do a quick drive thru for burgers and fries for us ,easy supper and no cleanup well worth it. Now my husband and I are settled in with Miss Abigail the kitty and my son settling in his room after a nice hot bath until one of his friends text him to get together will see they all looked cold tired and wet when I left.

This is one of the perks about being a parent enjoying their accomplishments and knowing that they know how working hard pays off and not just sports but anything that they put their minds  to.  well going to go get under that blanket  and enjoy a movie with my husband have a goodnight everyone.