Hmm…. Eye Opener

It;s been a long week and its only Tues, so hate that feeling ..  My Son gad a track meet against their rivalry team and someone had to loose unfortunately it was my Son’s team. The team took it really hard , I feel so bad for them. I want to say to him it’s only a game but to them it’s so much more. it’s their life who they are okay they think it is ..I think that there is to much pressures of  all kinds. on kids now  and I not saying we put to much pressure as parents  I am talking about other kids society  sports them trying to prove themselves  to others , wanting to be in as I quote . If you read my last post I had wrote about the controversy over the new show based on the book 13 Reasons Why on Netflix about teenage suicide. Its such an eye opener I am on episode 9 and I am amazed how I can relate some of the things that I have seen in my kids school its so unreal.  Yes I know we where all teenagers once we had good days bad days we had breakups bad friends all that but in this new world of technology I think its out of control  what kids can do with it and  sadly really push someone to the point of suicide  Just by one press of a button on their cell phones,,.we know bullying is out of hand , kids do not care there mind are so wrapped up in material things okay sorry not all but a good amount of kids and this show/book I believe scares people because this is a real fear and people are afraid to see this .I do agree if your child has depression  they should not watch this or watch with an adult because it does not in my eye glamorize suicide maybe in a teenagers so watch talk about it . I know one thing keep the communication open with your kids no matter if they push away just keep it open.

Changes.. Always

Changes life’s way….everything is always changing sadly I am not very good with changes. changes need to happen that is  how we grow or make things better but sometimes there hard ..sad changes and not wanted . A lot of them lately bitter sweet ones lets see soon we will all have a new President to some it’s good to others  it isn’t we will have to learn to adapt which lately society is having a hard time of that and that is a worrisome thought. My Family and I have gone through a sad change our beloved pups past away before Christmas and it has not felt the same around our house especially for my daughters kitty Miss Abigail and I who spend most of our time in the house . Each day is getting a bit better but some days I feel like he is here because Miss Abigail does her hide in the corner then pounces in to empty air now like she is pouncing on the pups like she use to do, then they would chase each other down our hallway which is what Miss Abigail does after she pounces into empty air but something tells me she sees or feels her buddy …yes I  believe in things like that it helps me get through with out him.

My Other change is in less then a month my youngest child will go for his drivers license and I am excited for him but worried at the same time because he is my youngest and  he loves to always be on the go so I will have some or should say more sleepless nights. I just feels like yesterday he had just  learned to pedal a bike how did time go by so fast  its all  so surreal .  So  make memories a lot of them a hold them tight because change has no time span and we are all on this crazy ride called life.

 

 

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Love!!

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It’s a new day and a new President elected and    new laws that have passed that I am not to happy about.  I know some of us are happy and some of us are not  happy who is our new President but protesting doing it  violently is not the answer.  I am sorry for that but life will go on and hopefully we can find  some hope that things will change for the good. I do not like to talk about politics because to me it’s just a subject not all will ever agree on. I wish we could of voted for more good  more peace more morals and especially more love  the hate in this world is just  unbelievable I never seen it this bad and it’s so scary. we need to stand together and get stronger  and love more  to get through this world  how can we raise strong happy loving kids if all we show them is the negative’s I just do not believe we can …..I know I am going to try to keep showing my kids that there is good in this world still we just need to try harder and I know there are  other ways to deal with things  we do not agree on by using hate. I hope everyone gets some sleep tonight I know I am hoping to ..  a very late and long night.it was.

 

Are we coming or going……

It’s been a long week and a half. everything seems so upside down what are we doing as a society with teaching our kid’s right and wrong…it just seems like whats right is wrong whats wrong is right….who wins who learns it’s just so frustrating . A situation in our town has turned into such a confusing mess yes a mess is what it is just by one person’s bad choice and wrong doing effecting innocent kid’s . everyone is confused if we could just say it like it is, if we didn’t have to add drama to it or sweep it under the rug, but be a friend believe in the person  stand by your friends help each other  then to go against them it would not be so confusing but the sad thing is kid’s do not know what is right or wrong  or are afraid to stand up because you will be judged society has taught this because they see how people clearly can turn on each other okay  I am not meaning everyone but a big majority  do. everyday our kid’s witness people being mean and making bad choices  a for example in a line at a store the person in front of you being nasty because the cashier did something wrong.. well in their mind so they belittle them in front of a whole  store  your kids see this  or you let someone go first in line or on the road driving and can you get a thank you..hmmm no. then again they see this so how do you instill do the right thing be the better person stop the blame game open our ears listen which yes is still possible but in this world lately you need to be a strong person enough to do this. Instead our younger kids just clam up and say well better to say nothing at all, not in all cases. so this is what I am dealing with we need to learn what our actions teach our next generation. it’s scary thinking what this generation will be like when they become adults . will they be okay that’s  the big question.

Life……

what is life …let’s see when I was a little girl it was  the smell of fresh cut  grass coming through your open window , bright sun shining in  and jumping out of bed as fast as you could to get outside and feel the grass under your feet. spending the day outside playing kickball or riding your bike with the neighborhood kids until you could hear your mother’s voice yelling supper time. when winter came we couldn’t wait for the snow ,making snow angels and snow forts trying to find the biggest hill to slide down till you couldn’t feel your toes then it was hot chocolate with marshmallows floating around in it. Awww the the life of a kid we we thought we were invisible life was good . Then adulthood came .. college work ,what we were expected to be Or I should say what society expected of us …I must say I was one of the lucky ones my parents just expected us to be happy save and healthy good honest adult and  which I am happy for that . I am a mom now and I go by the same idea  .I am proud of my kid’s no matter what I only ask for them to be respectful to others and honest to themselves and work hard.study hard and live their life to the fullest THEIR way . I get so upset what pressures the kids are under now and the technology that has taken away the play time I grew up with kids do not know what they have missed  .I know life changes but why does everything have to, we put so much pressure on our graduates .. The kids now just have to much handed to them and I try not to fall into that pattern but it’s hard I see kids that have everything handed to them and their selfish and want more but then I see stressed out kid’s depressed kids kid’s heading down a bad path ..  Not all of them but for the most part a large amount of them. I hope at least my kid’s know me not pushing them to the point of exhaustion does not mean I do not  care ….but that I  do care and I want them to be happy rounded adults.