A summer of change and challenge….

Oh where did the summers  go when the things we worried about was too much sun ,not enough water , over tired kids . how to get them inside for the night and a sad child because their popsicle melted faster then they could eat it. Replaced with worrying where your kids are  ,not home by curfew .. or their not where they said they would be , insecurities if not trusting  a friend , your teenager sad and playing sad depressing songs over and over after a breakup. Trying to find an answer to their why’s and it’s unfair .. then we get even more complicated with teenagers hosting parties and you find out your teenager is there because you get a 1 in  the morning phone call saying you need to pick me up because there not at a sleepover…. and the party just got busted and the police are asking you to come pick your child up and their car as well . And you want to be angry at them but at the same time you just want to get them home safe and the lecturing will have to wait till morning but you cant sleep because there is so much you need to say and if your lucky they will listen . Then if you have a soon to be 22 yr old daughter who  does not know what to do with her boyfriend she is unhappy with and is easy for you to say then end the relationship. But they have 10 reasons why thier unsure of , yes is your head spinning mine is . and then she is trying to save and work more which we know work and making the money to move out is a challenge in it’s self this day in age  and she has a good head on her shoulder and is frustrated because she is trying but it is taking more time then she thought. Yes the challenges just as the teenage parties  are .. yes some did some didn’t but this generation is parting even more and  more young adults are still living at home and how did your teenager get ahold of half the  alcohol   is beyond me .  My Son is a great kid has good friends  they all have jobs and athletics and  good grades but pressures  yes a lot of pressures  peer pressure which is at an all time high as well in this age. but do not get me started that is a subject for another day  but I believe it is part of the problem and they just can’t get it that this is not a good thing of what thier doing and let me just say my husband  and I’ are holding our breaths for school to start 3 more weeks and school will be here and it’s going to be the longest 3 weeks of our lives . So like my title to this post says the challenges …this has been an eye opening summer  wish I  could find a solution to all  if these challenges yes I know learning experience  but these days it’s just not a safe answer .  

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Another evening settling in bed where the air conditioner feels the best yes another extremely hot day and night so TV it  is and after I believe  I will read my book and wait for my son to arrive home from work hmm this will be interesting will he be in a good mood or bad ..you never know with teenagers. I am proud of myself  , last night my son went out with friends and gf for a bite to eat, about an hr or so later he texted me now at the movies so I held my breath and typed okay have fun remember curfew . Ok this was hard because I held back the 20 questions he calls being drilled well I didn’t and let me tell you I fell asleep for once before he arrived home of course my ringer volume was on the highest incase he called or texted , I do not think my hubby was thrilled when my twitter or Facebook notifications went off throughout the night ….whoops 🙂 of course guess who it didn’t wake up ?  ME!  I did wake up randomly at 3 and saw that the outdoor light was off so at least he was home hahaha 

           Morning came and I was enjoying my morning cup of coffee my son woke looked at me with wonder I had to laugh inside a bit because I think he was in shock oh I patted myself on the back so to speak  for holding back . Oh I’m trying and trying hard to trust and let give a bit of  this chain called over protected mother . I will keep you posted how well I can keep this up .