Life’s lessons…

I rarely post anything about my daughter unless it’s that we spent ¬†the day together out and yes today we did . ūüôāanyways my daughter has been dating a guy now going on 5 yrs in Oct he is 7 yes older so almost 30 per say but in most cases acts like he is 18 or younger my daughter is way more mature then him at 22 and this relationship is so one sided always been about him ¬†and and he is a gamer so stays up all night playing video games works but only part time could of landed a full time position¬† but has lost his chances by not giving .. showing enough effort to be the right person for it. Sadly he has no motivation¬† so your thinking why is she with him well we all wonder the same thing her family friends . We¬† did not realize all this at the time seemed like a super nice person but now seeing he isn’t well he¬† is not a bad person but he is not a happy person due to his own fault¬† and she is not happy but he plays poor me and she gets mad for a bit but then feels bad and stays with him … we have all been so nice to him helped him but sadly he is not going anywhere they tried living together it lasted barely a year so now he is living with his mom. not saving complains. constantly¬† about everything you cant give him advice he does not take it it’s¬† his way or no way can’t compromise ,and when he is at our house for several day he sets off this vibe a dark cloud over me and she has felt it too yes I believe in vibes.. karma ¬†when he leave it lifts ¬†yes I instantly can feel the relieve ,I cannot take seeing her get miserable but then play nice to him and no matter what we say she stays with him . She says she isn’t as attracted to him like she was and wished it would fade out instead it just keeps going this way they work together so this doesn’t help and now I’m finding that even what I say doesn’t matter as a mother to daughter talk¬† she stays with him . I’m so frusturated with all this and I’m ready to cut the ties myself from befriending him on Facebook … buying him things for holidays I just realize she isn’t going to end this with anyone’s input . why I ask ? She is so much better then this deserves so much more I can’t understand . All I know is I tried being nice to him for her sake but cannot anymore too much stress , so I’m going to stop asking about him if she as an issue with him I will not give feed back I’m washing my hands from this . Anyone have any advice ? I would gladly take it. I’m thinking more negative things I say she stays with him . Is this going to sadly be her life lesson to deal with him and regret this someday . ¬†I hope not . What to do ….anyone ?

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