In my post last night I had mentioned I had a conversation with my son. and I had said it didn’t go as well as planned well I have decided my son is a teenager and definitely does not or is in defiance, does not have a clue about life okay yes he is 16 maybe very social has a lot of drive… focus but maturity not. Okay yes we have all been 16 and we lived in our own worlds and we thought life was so great and fun and we thought we knew everything and our parents we looked at them like they where aliens ….well that was the look I did towards my son. Nothing I said clicked nothing I said was right ,he contradicted himself through out the conversation. I was dumbfounded and knew our talk was going in circles and I didn’t know who was chasing who. I stopped talking just let it go and he went in his room . I pondered the thought over and over in my head the one thing he said that kept slapping me in the face was I qoute “You ask so much of me” “your always telling me to get a better job” it’s always about money I need to concentrate on school and sports ,okay one his father and I only ask for respect when he walks into the house and good grades . and yes we want him to do good with his sports and get into a good college so he can run for them and he is so good at it but its hard to take him after he gets so tired he is exhausting after because he is ugly that I cannot take.who doesn’t want that and we only say things about his job because he his always complaining about money and his father and I feel he wants to hang out with his friends every night and eat out in which case he contradicted himself when he said we do not do that as much now and I only need enough money for gas. yeah okay that’s why when this weeks Spring vacation is here he will be going out and why should we have to pay for that when we pay for everything else and he is able to work. hmm is he thinking of other parents…what is it with these kids and their drama they do not have a clue about life I know my son does not. where did we go wrong or his this just the teenage hormones and friends talking ? so I think as much as I do not want to it’s time to back of and let him eat his words and fail a bit. This is going to be very painful to watch.
Life.. teenagers ..changes it’s enough to make a parent crazy. I know all have been through it and survive but my day we worked for what we wanted we asked for nothing and we got it we where grateful .this generation just seems so arrogant and my Son tries to make it be that it is me …oh no it is not and I am going to show him. wow that was a rant..hahaha okay guess I needed to get that out . Sorry Everyone. Just been a crazy ride on this new journey of being a teenager .Yes have an adult daughter but never went through any of this with her but they are 5yrs apart and so different from one another. Does anyone have any advice to give ? would love some.
This Spring season is so different then last year usually the beginning of Spring makes me feel refresh excited to set my decks up with all the outside furniture. ..This year It’s just so unbelievably different I am doing the what I miss thing believe me I do feel very blessed and I am so blessed.. but change is not an easy thing for me and this Spring is what I call a Spring of change . Let’s see I miss my faithful Pups who loved when this season came we got outside on the deck and embraced together the suns warmth and he has now passed over the winter, I write with a tear in my eye. I miss my Son not having his drivers license he is always out and about which he got this winter. So I am always doing the where are you text’s and worries. I miss outings with my daughter now its very rare if we go out and spend time together, since she found new friends this winter .. ughhh so much change this winter that now has made this Spring a very big change to adjust to. I know I have occupied myself around my family for so long which felt like the thing to do when we had started a family and no one told me that this time would come this quick and I now feel I have lost myself I need to find myself again does anyone have any ideas for me ? How to do this? To make anew . To take the bad the difference and make it good. Would love some advice.
This morning my husband had country music playing in the house and we all know how some country songs are good at singing about loosing your girl or man and how I thought she would be the one etc..etc.. so you get the idea , well my Teenage son as been taken over by the teenage monster that’s the only way I can describe it…so many mood swings that serious look on his face like he is constantly thinking and most likely is about her ughhh…. the girl that has got such a hold on his heart for 3 yrs now and let me just say a roller coaster ride this has been and not a fun one she is so hot and cold okay let me explain better. Do not get me wrong she is not a bad person she has values goals very smart can be nice is very independent but very insecure so she is so afraid to trust. she tells my son all the time why me you could have anyone, okay my son knows a lot of girls and he probably could date any one of them but he does not want them he wants her and I think after 3 years of being with her off and on due to her saying they need a break I think he has proved who he wants but she keeps shutting down and ignoring him at school for weeks on end then out of the blue she decides she wants to be with him again and my poor son follows…so sad… now its been two weeks after a good amount of time that they where doing really well I thought oh finally .No… so as this morning as the country music is playing and I see him staring out the window and I know he listening to the words a deja vu moment for me I remember being that age and thinking and dreaming of that lost love and oh my gosh I know how he is feeling he reminds me of myself at this age and he is so social and funny like I was and when I got hurt that hurt was felt very deep into the very soul of my being . what can you say ? nothing really .
Its a strange thing when you feel to the very core of your body of how their feeling and its happens to be your child and that whole If I knew then what I know now talk would not help because for them this is now and their world at the moment and you know they just have to push through this and all you can as a parent is be there for them. I would not want to be a teenager again oh no and in this day in age I cannot imagine. I know it’s a lot more harder and complicated . I do know what I would like to say to the girls mom who loves my son and that would be tell your daughter just let him go for good this whole keeping him on a string his hurting him and not fair to him and she has to be the one to cut that string because that string is the only thing that gives him hope ….so cruel. it’s a amazing to have a teenager and actually see almost a spitten image of your self going through this and now knowing and wondering how your parents felt. I will tell you it’s hard and heartbreaking to watch and being your very first real love is a hurt that goes very deep. We all remember our first love and if you say you dont then your in denial or with them now. I know I remember mine and let me just say i’m thankful he was my first love but not my forever lasting love.
So it’s the day after I wrote my post of a not so good day with my new/used car purchase . So like I wrote in my post on Wed The car was told to come back because things had not been serviced on it and probably should of never left their lot.
It’s Thursday and at 9:30 in the morning after a very long restless night and wake up call from a roaring wind that sounded as angry as I felt at that moment. So I grabbed some coffee and started getting somethings done that consist of using electricity because I worried we could loose it . the phone rang and it was the car dealer , the service guy sounded up beat well of course he did .. and told me that my car was all set and yes it had some issues that where fixed now minor as of yesterday(read Tues post) Today not…. and everything he stated now proves to me if I had known at least one of those issues I would of walked out the door. okay of course they do not tell you but rules where broken and lies where said and they wanted this car gone and I am now even more mad because my son drove that car in the past two days while his car was getting some things done and I felt his car wasn’t safe …oh my… my new car was the one that really wasn’t safe. so they where not happy that I was not happy about the work they did and I told them I’m sorry but how can I possibly be happy. so with this this wind I told them I was not driving in it with their car they loan to me and and I feel uncomfortable driving it, he understood hesitantly and told me tomorrow would be fine. I am hoping when I do get there do I can get a moment to speak to their manager and ask him or her if she knew about this and that I hope this is not how they do all their business because if my son , daughter myself who drove that car with the unsafe issues had had an accident they would not be happy for what they would be in for. I just hope some other family isn’t driving one of their unserviced vehicles..
Well what a day I had…. lets put it this way when your daughters cat is happily sitting by the window watching the leaves scatter around by the wind and you envy her for such a simple life …I am either crazy or heading that way…. sigh… So last week I bought a new/used car and for some reason I just didn’t feel right about it but the price was right with our budget and lucky they even financed it because I’m /we already have a truck loan and mortgage etc ….plus my son needed a car so I gave him my very old one ..which sadly is on it’s last leg . One the color I dislike it it’s white and I have a long dirt driveway.Then it started to sound funny a loud humming noise from the back..so I said it’s me just stop well this morning the car dealer calls and tells me that I need to bring the car back because well they just do not know how it happened but it didn’t fully get serviced like there suppose to and they told me it did the day I bought it and that there was some minor issues on it to be fixed and they never got to it does not make sense to me. and hmm minor yeah how about the loud noise ? He was like oh I don’t know about that.I lost it the short 4’11 nice women I was and look like that day of the sale turned into a let’s say when a mother bear thinks her cubs are in danger and she needs to defends them you do not want to stick around hahahaha so I said well I know. It sounds like my car is a jet coming into a landing when your doing 60 on the highway and then at 30 mph a jet taking off . So my car was never suppose to have left the lot or actually probably not to be sold yet and I am locked into a 4 yr loan which actually trying to research my rights if any which I hope I do. …and at the moment a rent a car at their expense is sitting in my driveway and sadly like that a whole lot better .So it has not been a good day I should of went with my instinct I want to kick myself for not doing so . this is not me to go against it but I was trying to throw caution to the wind because I am known to over think but my instinct that I should of never ignored. their going to go through it but will see I am going to demand another car . or some kind of proof that they went through it in which case they had said they did before.will see that I will have to get back to you on.
Why I ask why..and no I am not feeling sorry for myself just upset. why does these things happen to me I try to be a nice person I do not ask for much just only what I need . I put my guard down for one second and this happens I told the guy you saw sucker written across my for head . .he kept apologizing and and saying he couldn’t believe this happened ..but I do some people just do not care… well let me just say I think they where shocked of the person they saw today. One think I am not is weak or a sucker I am a nice person trying my hardest to be the person my kid s can look up to. and I try to believe that not everyone is dishonest but this thought is fading fast.So Happy National Women’s Day to me ….not okay maybe that was uncalled for but it was just a very frustrating day and I am a women and I just feel sense I didn’t have my husband holding my hand buying this I was taken advantage of just a bad day for this to fall on. Well that felt good to let out hahaha.
So today we had one of our 1st biggest snow storms of this season. I was so happy my daughter already had the day off from work so no worries for her or me. My teenage Son has been constantly been in and out our door since Christmas Vacation started which that has been 7 days now so I figured okay here is a big storm coming he will stay home, well lets see that did not happened ….he is snowboarding with his friends at our local ski resort. Oh believe me I told him no or will see, well he named every kid that would be there and their parents where fine with it .So now I will look like the bad parent well usually that does not bother me …..but his big plus was I have a ride to and home so you don’t have to go out. Yes a nice thing but will I worry yes will I be checking social media that there are no accidents yes..will I be jumping every time my phone rings yes . I’m telling you when I signed up for this parenting thing worry seemed like the last thing on my mind…hmm how did that happen? I was to busy thinking of the cute outfits the fun things to do play dates but worry NO ..sadly here it is worry I think he loves seeing my hair turn grey everyday. My daughter didn’t put me through half of this worry and being 21 and living at home in the furnished basement she calls me texts me if she is going to be late or not coming straight home. I tell her I appreciate this but she doesn’t have to always check in but she says but “Mom I don’t want you to worry. now if my son would or could do that ahhh I would be so happy. Now I sit it’s 7:30 and I told him you have them bring you straight home when this ends at 9 we will see I know at 9 my panic will kick in . the life of parenting .
I wake up to a sunny but cold day. My thoughts feel all over the place is it the full moon? I just want to feel like Myself again.. but I feel like that person is is gone when you went away and I found who was by my side to help me through sad when you find how low the number is of people you thought you had . Bitter sad anger all comes to mind but then am I to blame for this for believing I could trust any of you. . so I’m going to guard my heart do what I need to do for me and yes I am going to be selfish isn’t that what all of you are?